I spent Friday night watching three movies in a row with my husband. Melissa McCarthy comedies that made us both laugh. We had a good time. Before going to I checked my phone. Bad move. Never check social media before going to bed. I know better. Still there I was scrolling Instagram.
I saw a post about Senator Collins speech and why she was voting for Brett Kavanaugh to be a Supreme Court Judge. A lifetime gig, guaranteeing us 30 + years of having to fight for basic woman rights in the US. With ripple effects we can only guess.
I sat on the bathroom floor crying. Instead of going to bed I sat there reading comments about Kavanaugh's confirmation. I read comments from women who had never shared their stories before. I read about the sexual assaults they had carried alone for years. I read about the fear of what might come.
My heart broke. I don't live in the US. Norway is still one of the most liberal countries in the world. But this is a wake-up call. Our rights are not guaranteed. We have plenty of wrongdoings over here as well. But the US influences the world in a way no other country does. When they start taking away basic human rights, be it women's rights, indigenous rights or LGBTQ rights, it will affect us all. We are not free before all are free.
This has been a heavy and dark weekend. And I know I'm not the only one. We need to feel the feelings, we need to let it pass through us. But we also need self-care. If there's one thing I've learned over the years it's how vital self-care is. I'm not talking about manicures or shopping sprees. I'm talking about the ways you can heal your heart, keep your sanity and avoid running on empty.
I'm talking about the ways you can heal your heart, keep your sanity and avoid running on empty.
Self-care comes in all forms. You do you and find what works best. I do recommend you to be mindful of mixing self-care with running away from yourself or blocking your feelings moving through. Getting drunk might not be the best way to fuel your life.
Here are some of the things I've done this weekend. They are not grand, but they are what I've needed.
Napping on the couch and going to bed early. Always helps. 100% free.
2. Essential oils
Emotional healing through essential oils. Balance mix underneath my feet to keep grounded, Geranium over my heart, peppermint to open up my breathing and frankincense everywhere!
3. Feel good movies
No violence. Periode. I'm in general super sensitive to violence on the screen, but when I'm not feeling good it's even worse.
Hugged my husband. Also free and benefits us both.
5. Cold bath
Maybe it doesn't sound like self-care, but being able to sit in the cold ocean is the best grounding you can find. It's a meditation that will reset you physically and mentally.
6. Move to music
Inspired by Glennon Doyle's IG post I turned Pink’s song "I Am Here" on full blast this morning and danced. Twice. It Felt Amazing!
It always reminds me to move. I used to have an alarm on my phone to remind me every day to dance. I might need to do that again.
Showed gratitude for the enormous courage it took for Dr. Christine Blasey Ford to speak up. I first posted it on my FB account. It lead to an old classmate (white male) of mine starting an argument about her motives. In the end, I unfriended him on FB. I can't bother with men who aren't willing to see how harmful their words towards women can be.
But this morning I wrote a thank you letter to Dr. Ford. And that felt good. Really good!
If you want to do the same, you can use this address. It's her work address so it will not affect her safety:
Dr. Christine Blasey Ford
c/o Palo Alto University
1791 Arastradero Rd.
So tell me, what do you turn to when it comes to self-care?
What do you do to recharge? I'd love to hear❤️